Monday, 23 July 2018

Revisiting Neil: Is My Gremlin Locked? - The Creative Process


REVISITING NEIL: IS MY GREMLIN LOCKED?

A while ago, I talked about my writing gremlin. I named him Neil and talked about the steps I'd taken to quiet his voice. You can find those pieces here and here. However, it been a few years and things have changed and so I thought I would talk about how Neil still has an effect on me, even after all this time as a writer. In all honesty, I don't think there will come a time when I *don't* feel Neil's presence. I have more experience than I did a year ago or more, but I do have an anxiety disorder and I know I have problems with self-esteem and all of that.

So how do I move forward? How do I make it work for me, knowing that I am probably always going to hear those whispers of both imposter syndrome and also not feeling like I am enough writing wise? Some of it is trial and error, some of it comes from being able to implement the tools my therapist has given me and some of it is also gaining confidence in my own ability and work. All of that together can lead to being able to quiet that voice to a hushed whisper and ignore it on days when it hits me hard. So how do I manage that? I'm going to give you some of my tips, while also asking you to bear in mind a few things. I am not a trained psychologist or doctor. I am also only able to give you tips that work for me. They might not for you and that's okay. You just need to find the tools that will.

#1 - A SUPPORT NETWORK

The one big thing you need as an author, a writer, well anyone really, but in this instance writing, is a support network. Whether that's people online or in your life, you need people that you can go to with your worries and know that they will hear you out and help you deal with things. I can't tell you how many times I've gone to B or Kim, who are both in contact with me daily, and had a worry shared and them talk it through with me. I know that I am very lucky to have that and it's not always easy for people to find their people as it were, but these can come in the shape of critique partners or betas, fellow authors and readers. It doesn't have to be all offline people, you make the friends where you do and family can, sometimes, also be a good support network.

#2- KEEP IT REAL
While there is a lot to be said in presenting a confident front, and I agree with that to a point, people, as in readers and others, will want to know that the person they see is the same person writing the book. What I mean by this is, it's okay to have moments where you struggle. While it's probably not best to rant about it on your twitter or blog talking about how you suck and should never write all the time, it's okay to have blips. Everyone has them and that just makes you human. To continue on this note, it's okay to not need to do that. I personally don't take the down moments and put them on my social media. Simply because I have a great support network and it doesn't need to happen. However, I completely get that for some people their support network is on those sites, so I'm not going to pretend that you shouldn't allow yourself that support however it comes.

#3 - REMEMBER YOU'RE NOT ALONE

I know this plays somewhat into the support network and all of that, but a big thing for me is remembering that I'm not the only person, creative or otherwise, to feel this way. Confidence is something some people have and others don't. I wish it was as simple as just writing something and being amazed by it, but then again I look back and realise just how far I've come, which I'll cover in another point. Remembering that you're not alone helps me, it reminds me that everyone struggles and that it's okay to do so. Sometimes you need to reach out for help, and that's okay.

#4 - LOOK HOW FAR YOU'VE COME

This is a big one for me as well. I look back at the first draft of a book and then remember as I went through each stage of revisions. With every new draft, that book has transformed from the idea to the finished product. And it's okay to remember that while I loved Blackout when it was done, I have grown as a writer, I will continue to grow as a writer. I keep writing and I'm always going to keep growing and that's so important for someone to realise. Where you start with a first draft is often miles apart from where you finish. It's a great boost to be able to look at the end product and remember that the project you're working on now will one day get to that stage and will be so much better for it.

#5 - ASKING FOR HELP IS OKAY
It's okay to need more than just friends and tips from a blog. It's okay to need medication and therapy. There is nothing wrong with any of those, and if you need help, it's okay to ask for it. Like I said, I've got medication, I've got a therapist, and if you need that, then you need it. I can't advocate enough for getting the help you need to be the best person you can be. There's no shame in it, at least in my eyes.

So those are my five tips on dealing with gremlins. I wish it were as simple as locking them in a cage and throwing away the key, but mental health and the things that go along with that sometimes need more. They also don't generally just go away. It's a lifelong thing and everybody has some level of anxiety. It's when it becomes something you can't move past that you need to realise that getting help for it doesn't make you a bad person.


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Sunday, 22 July 2018

From Joey's Instagram


I have a bonus vlog for you guys! The story ideas tag which was created by @authorbethanyatazadeh And @_brookepassmore. I tag Erin Kinsella, @bellarosepope And @according2jewls! Check it out here: http://www.youtube.com/JoeyPaulOnline 🤯🤯🤯📚📚📚 #authorslife #authorsofinstagram #indieauthor #amwriting #writerslife #writersofinstagram #authortube #lovemyjob #ilovewriting #igwriters #igauthors #writingtips #authortuber #vlogger #smallyoutuber
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Sunday Bonus: Author Tag: Story Ideas Tag [CC]


STORY IDEAS TAG: BETHANY ATAZEDEH & BROOKE PASSMORE

Story Ideas Tag Questions:
1. CURRENT STORY: What is your current story idea that you’re working on right now?
2. SPARK OF INSPIRATION: Do your ideas begin with characters, plot, world building, or something else entirely?
3. BRAINSTORM: How do you puzzle piece your story elements together? Do you start with the ending and make your way to the beginning or vice versa?
4. KEEP OR TOSS: How do you know when you want to keep or dump a story idea?
5. ORIGINAL IDEA: How much of your original idea for your story is actually used once everything is finished?
6. HIDE OR SHARE: Do you share your book ideas with friends or keep them a secret?
7. DREAM: Have any of your book ideas originated with a dream/nightmare?
8. DOPPLEGANGER: Have you ever had an idea for a story but then see a similar premise in a book/tv-show/movie?
9. BIG SCREEN INSPIRATION - Have any of your favorite movies/tv shows sparked ideas for scenes in your book?
10. NOSTALGIA: What’s the oldest/first story idea you remember coming up with/writing down?

I was tagged by MANDI LYNN: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b48OVKA2xeA

BETHANY'S VIDEO: https://t.co/peVSfounIo

BROOKE'S VIDEO: https://youtu.be/nkFfH8sl3Zs

I tag: PAGES & PENS: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHqNmzoKmhfQk74S3cU1BFQ

BELLA ROSE POPE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeDa4DQjW_bUVj-IuVWokkw
&
ERIN KINSELLA: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCO9oK9D2DpNqcdHfQrh9y9w


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Saturday, 21 July 2018

From Joey's Instagram


And this time last week I was getting ready for my third signing at #BLISS18! Now I have 11 weeks until #Darker18! Getting on with writing today because the struggle is real! ✒📚📚✒ #authorslife #authorsofinstagram #indieauthor #amwriting #writerslife #writersofinstagram #booksigning
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Friday, 20 July 2018

Guest Blog - Toni Bolton


Hi Guys, thank you to Joey Paul for letting me make this post. I am Dawn Bolton. I live in Knowle in a restored pub near the canal with my husband and two mischievous Birman cats who rule the house.

I love swimming, skiing and yoga/bodybalance. I love plants and particularly succulents. 

I base many of my novels on cases and facts I read about during teaching law in HE. One of my novels Escape from fear was based on the stalking and murder of our secretary in the university where I worked. 

I would like to introduce you to my romantic suspense/crime series Men of valour, women of steel under the name of Toni Bolton. If you like stories about ex-military men who solve crimes and have to work hard to earn the love of their feisty independent ladies, this series is for you. These are intense, dark romances with adventures and spice.

I also write historical romances under the name of Alexie Bolton. My inspiration was my history degree. Georgette Heyer inspired me to write the series Dreda’s men. Her Duke of Avon in ‘These old shades,’ is similar to my cynical detached Officer Francis Dreda in ‘The Spymaster’s redeemer’ who ruthlessly enforces the law in his civil war-torn state by the threat of imprisonment and the noose. He is blind-sided by a beautiful and defiant rebel’s daughter who he tries to save from the noose when he believes she has aided the rebels. The series is about the militia men who operate in a State security bureau after the Napoleonic war. Their ladies, are no ‘milk and water misses.’ They can shoot and fence and are a match for these ruthless ex-army men.

If you would like to contact me and receive my newsletter, please contact me on kixley@btinternet.com.

My Facebook page is Dawn Bolton’s author page at dawnpbolton@facebook.

Alexie Bolton’s books
The Spymaster’s redeemer
Love and the Law a romantic western in the anthology Streetlamps and starlight, edited by Tiffany Carby and Kathia Iblis, available now on Amazon and raising money for the American Cat Protection Society/
The Militia man’s lady

Toni Bolton’s books, series, Men of valour, women of steel.
Escape from fear, book one
Whisper softly or you’re dead, book two.
Saving baby Grace, to be released 7th of July as a stand-alone novel but originally in the anthology Hey you, I think I love you edited by Cree Nations and Liberty Parker

You can follow Toni on Facebook.

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Thursday, 19 July 2018

From Joey's Instagram


And this week I'm talking about the release of my 13th book: #WalkAMile! You can check it out here: http://www.youtube.com/JoeyPaulOnline 📚📚📚 😱😱 #authorslife #authorsofinstagram #indieauthor #amwriting #writerslife #writersofinstagram #authortube #lovemyjob #ilovewriting #igwriters #igauthors #writingtips #authortuber #writingvlog #vlogger #smallyoutuber
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Book Release: Walk A Mile [CC]


Talking about my release of the book: Walk A Mile

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Tuesday, 17 July 2018

From Joey's Instagram


#TEASERTUESDAY This week I thought I'd share a teaser from Lynne & Hope. Two sisters with a lot of space between then relationship wise. Can Hope cross that boundary when Lynne needs her? ♿♿♿☠☠☠ Buy here: www.books2read.com/LANH 📚📚📚 What's a diverse book you like? ✒✒✒ #authorslife #authorsofinstagram #indieauthor #amwriting #writerslife #writersofinstagram #lynne&hope #bookworm #bookboost #yalit #reading #amreading #readersofinstagram #booklover
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Saturday, 14 July 2018

From Joey's Instagram


All set up for #BLUSS18! Doors open at ten! Will I see you there?? It's gonna be amazing! 📚✒📚🔆🔆 #authorslife #authorsofinstagram #indieauthor #amwriting #writerslife #writersofinstagram #booksigning
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Friday, 13 July 2018

From Joey's Instagram


All checked in and ready for #BLISS18! Looking forward to seeing new readers, old readers and everything in between. Having some fish and chips for dinner...yum! 😁😁🔆🔆📚📚✒✒ #authorslife #authorsofinstagram #indieauthor #amwriting #writerslife #writersofinstagram #booksigning
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